So far Tristan has been having troubles in kindergarten. He started out fine at the beginning and was excited to go to school and meet new friends. His one friend from preschool happened to get assigned to a different kindergarten teacher so Tristan is having to make all new friends this year.
He began this adventure back in August and it's only November now and we have been meeting with the Principal, his teacher and the school counselor a few times now. It seems that he is struggling to fit in with the daily schedule. It's frustrating for me as his Mom because I don't want to see him struggling to fit in with school. As a child myself I don't remember school being so difficult. I remember I wanted all the classmates to like me and as I got older is when I began to not care about everyone and only had a few friends that were close to me. Those are the friends that I still keep in contact with today. They are friends that even though we don't talk everyday (more like once or twice a year), we can still pick up a conversation like it was yesterday.
Tristan now goes back and forth between which friends are his "best friends". One day Cooper will be his best friend and then it will be Eli or Layne the next day. He even tells me that Ava is his girl friend and that he pushed her because he was being "Romantic"! LOL
I don't even know how Tristan at 5 years old is even learning this stuff. But him and Ava are in hockey together and at least they have one thing in common. Now I'm sure I will have to meet her parents...
I wonder sometimes if Tristan and Ava will actually have a relationship later in high school and think it would be funny and sweet if they actually remained friends from 5 to whatever age.
We constantly between my husband and I keep up on Tristan and his behavior at school. From what my husband tells me, it's going to be a struggle for us for many years. My husband, Chris, tells me that he had a very hard time in school. He even was kicked out of high school but it was mainly bad judgement at the wrong time. The story was that him and a friend made guns in study hall out of paper and were pretend shooting each other or something and the teacher saw it and reported it. Bad timing is that this happened right when the Columbine shooting occurred and everyone in schools was on high alert. If it was any other time, he probably wouldn't have been kicked out of school.
But back to my struggles with Tristan...
I know he is super smart and learning a butt load at school! I was surprised when he just sat at his desk at home and began to practice writing and sounding out words on his own. I didn't know he could do that yet. We try to read to him every night and I work with him on the learning to read books. But my heart just melted when he just went and did it on his own without being told to.
He does get in the most trouble right before lunch though. The daily routine is to have recess right before lunch. It which I've been told "Tristan seems to be very hungry at lunch and eats more than most Kindergartners..." YES! He is 5 and a growing boy and he eats like a tank! At home he will have 2 bowls of cereal for breakfast. Now since the school thinks that he is being malnourished or starved by my own paranoid thinking, we started to feed him more protein-rich foods like egg breakfast sandwiches with ham or bacon. Hopefully this will help and he will be full longer.
I just don't like thinking that at anytime the school is going to question me about what he eats at home when I've witnessed other children during lunch that only eat a bag of Doritos and a few bags of just snacks. Nothing nutritious. But maybe the family can't afford the school lunch and then I worry about that... It's always something to worry about being a Mom I guess. Even if it's not your child, it's still a child who deserves to be fed and taken care of. I get in trouble from Tristan because I try to give him the extra food off my tray at his school lunch and he tells me "Mom, we're not allowed to share our food!" But what can I do...I know he's a growing boy :) Love that guy!
So... Hopefully this too shall pass. Everyone that I've talked to said that the first couple of years is hard and they grow out of it and learn the procedures and routine of school life. I just want Tristan to enjoy school and not regret things later like I did.